Expanded from the session: How To Structure Your Home For productivity (With Amara Agbim)
1. Financial plan
- Who will be responsible for the family’s financial planning?
- What are the debts we are each bringing into the marriage?
- Should we combine finances, manage them separately or a little of both?
- What is the most one of us can spend without consulting the other?
- What are our savings goals, what does retirement look like to us?
- How much do we need to save to reach those goals?
- etc.
2. How about our spiritual health?
- Who leads?
- who should be our spiritually influential mentors?
- where do we worship?
- How often should we pray together as a family?
- Is there a specific area of our marriage where we need some extra help in order to get to where God wants us to be?
- etc.
3. Where shall we live?
Mainland, island, close to family, far from family, close to work, east, west, north, relocation plans etc.
4. Who shall stay/visit us?
- Who is welcomed in our home?
- How often can people visit?
- How long should they stay?
- Should they inform us prior?
5. What kind of food shall we eat?
- Vegetarian?
- Exotic?
- Intercontinental?
- Local?
- Healthy? Junk?
- Eat out? eat in?
- Personal chef? Buy food in bulk?
- Who should cook?
- Quantity?
- Fresh/frozen?
- etc.
6. How many children shall we have?
- How many children shall we have?
- Do we want kids?
- Is adoption an option?
- Are other conception methods allowed
- How would we space them?
- What happens when one party is not ready or has medical complications?
- Family planning? Which?
- What should we name them?
- etc.
7. What kind of school shall our kids go to?
- Home school?
- Private or government?
- Montessori?
- Day or boarding?
- School abroad?
- School based on income, location?
- Alma mater?
8. Are we going to hire help?
- Live in or live out?
- relatives?
- Share household chores?
- Who pays?
- Male or female?
- Young or old?
- Job description?
9. Shall both partners work?
- Shall both partners work?
- Who stays at home?
- Work from home?
- Who handles what based on this decision
Note that:
- No fool proof family plan, so give room for flexibility as you grow
- A home without a family plan is an unstructured home and decisions would be taken on impulse which is dangerous
- Curate your family plan based on your values
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